The Subdued And Slick Culture War On Women That We Like To Ignore, But Should Really Be Thinking More About
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Strong women who stand up for their rights are always being accused of being ultra-feminists for doing so, but men who make gender biased jokes are still culturally rewarded with names like class clown and funny guy. Mainstream television and comedy shows encourage men to tell jokes about how the wives are moody, but when women tell these kinds of jokes about men, they are not usually accorded the same accolades. I am a pacifist and I hate arguing for the most part, but I shall not stand idly by while women are subjected to a subdued and slick war that is becoming the cultural norm.
We have heard about the more blatant war on women where some want to impress their religious beliefs on whether a woman is able to get birth control coverage, but that is not the only type of gender bias women face. I want address how women have things doubly hard when it comes to fashion, relationships, and pretty much every sector.
Today women are going to college more than men, but many women are still expected to take care of the kids when they get home from work, cook dinner, clean the house, help kids with homework, tell bedtime stories, and study if they are still attending classes. There are stay at home dads and many men out there who contribute in relationships, but more often than not do I hear a woman complaining about juggling all these hats while being dressed to the nines. Simply put there is a lot of pressure placed on women, and probably more so than before the equal rights movement. I believe that women and men should be treated as equals, but there needs to be less culturally sanctioned humor about how women are moody and demanding, but how men are simple creatures who just want to watch the football game in peace for a couple of hours after work.
I am sure a lot of women would enjoy the free time to watch what they wanted on TV rather than help kids with homework or finish up the dishes, but in today’s modern world women are still doing the lion’s share of the housework, and studies in both UK and US have confirmed this. So if your wife or girlfriend seems a bit moody after working, doing dishes, and tutoring the kids on their homework assignment, there might be a reason why.
There is this great emphasis on how men are simple creatures, and they do not appreciate a nagging woman wanting to talk about every little issue in the relationship. Truthfully, the claim of being a simple creature is not always a plus because some men use this claim to stone wall their significant other, and to avoid discussing issues that might be hurting the woman in their life. Even women’s magazines and websites are chocked full of articles about how you can avoid irritating and annoying a man, and I certainly do not read this type of advice in male oriented venues. Men read articles about sports and politics in magazines and male advice websites, but many women’s magazines/ websites, even the ones for middle aged women with kids, have tips on how to act cute, how not to annoy your man, on your bikini might not be hot enough for him, and the list goes on into infinitum.
This is the slick and subdued war on women that is happening every day, and which people condone without thinking much about. Do not get me wrong I enjoy reading a fashion magazine from time to time, but I usually only take an article telling me how not to annoy a man with a grain of salt, especially since men are not losing too much time fretting about the things they do that might irritate women. Honestly, women are guilt ridden enough as it is, and I do not believe we need more of this pressure to weigh down our psyches. Perhaps women should do an experiment this week and just focus on enjoying themselves like men do, and not worrying about whether we are annoying a man by talking about our favorite subject, or shade of lipstick. I know I will talk about what I want and wear what I like, and if you like me great, and if you detest me, that is your prerogative. I am not losing any sleep over superficial fluff like this.
Tags: gender stereo types, men, women, equality, Race, sexual equality